Every morning I do the same thing...get up...walk around in a state of unconsciousness...start the coffee maker brewing...and pour myself a big glass of Diet Coke. I simply cannot start the day without my beloved Diet Coke. Yes, I admit it...I am addicted.
For some reason I am particularly tired this morning...not sure why because I did not do one tenth of what I normally do on weekends. However, I'm totally in a fog today.
The day was going along as it normally does but, in my half-asleep state, I managed to pour cream and Equal into my Diet Coke...and then I managed to take a drink of black coffee...GAH!...and now the day is ruined. I have a feeling this is going to be one heckuva day.
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Monday, March 26, 2012
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Welcome to the family
This morning as I was teetering around with what feels like the thousands of seedlings I have started on my screened-in porch for my garden, I heard rustling in the trees outside of the porch...I looked out and saw this:
And within just a few minutes...this sweet lady arrived:
I'm looking forward to helping mama keep an eye on her precious eggs and hatchlings once they arrive...Today I'm going to go find a small bird feeder to put close to the nest so she will not have to go far for food. I must figure out her name...anyone who knows me knows that I bond very quickly with most animals I encounter so...mama bird, welcome to the family!
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And within just a few minutes...this sweet lady arrived:
I'm looking forward to helping mama keep an eye on her precious eggs and hatchlings once they arrive...Today I'm going to go find a small bird feeder to put close to the nest so she will not have to go far for food. I must figure out her name...anyone who knows me knows that I bond very quickly with most animals I encounter so...mama bird, welcome to the family!
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Thursday, March 15, 2012
I have to be honest
I have to be very honest...the truth is that I'm royally pissed. I guess I'm feeling the stress of trying to just live my life. Taking care of my own affairs...paying my bills, working on my taxes, doing a good job at work, tending to my health and the health of my little family on top of tending to my aunt's bills, her taxes, worrying about getting the contents of her house auctioned off and selling her home, dealing with the thug neighbor that stole so much money from her and the associated legal process, being her advocate and being the advocate for my mom and my dad...it's just too much.
Out of this entire situation, my aunt was the only person who had the luxury of advance notice that her life would spiral out of control. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2008...three full years before she really lost her mind. She still had her wits about her. Her doctor urged her continually to get her affairs in order...tell the family...set up the ground rules and timing of guardianship and conservatorship. But she chose not to. She kept it to herself and then, fast forward to today, now all hell has broken loose. I know that she cannot be held accountable now but she had the responsibility to be accountable to do the right thing when she was diagnosed and still in her right mind.
Being angry will get me nothing. But...I am really frustrated and, in all honesty, flat out mad at the memory of her. I'm not upset with the person she is today. If she could see herself, she would be mortified and feel horrible for all my family and I are going through. But I'm so mad at the Jean from 2008. When she had the ability to make decisions and could choose to do the right thing.
Let this be a lesson...whether you are 24 or 84, have the hard conversations while you still can. If you're younger, talk with your parents and grandparents. Make sure they are not withholding important information. If you're older, just know that keeping important health information from your family will only make their lives incredibly difficult in the long run. Ask for help. Talk to them about your expenses and your wishes. Do it now. Do not put it off. Let my family's situation serve as a lesson.
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Out of this entire situation, my aunt was the only person who had the luxury of advance notice that her life would spiral out of control. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2008...three full years before she really lost her mind. She still had her wits about her. Her doctor urged her continually to get her affairs in order...tell the family...set up the ground rules and timing of guardianship and conservatorship. But she chose not to. She kept it to herself and then, fast forward to today, now all hell has broken loose. I know that she cannot be held accountable now but she had the responsibility to be accountable to do the right thing when she was diagnosed and still in her right mind.
Being angry will get me nothing. But...I am really frustrated and, in all honesty, flat out mad at the memory of her. I'm not upset with the person she is today. If she could see herself, she would be mortified and feel horrible for all my family and I are going through. But I'm so mad at the Jean from 2008. When she had the ability to make decisions and could choose to do the right thing.
Let this be a lesson...whether you are 24 or 84, have the hard conversations while you still can. If you're younger, talk with your parents and grandparents. Make sure they are not withholding important information. If you're older, just know that keeping important health information from your family will only make their lives incredibly difficult in the long run. Ask for help. Talk to them about your expenses and your wishes. Do it now. Do not put it off. Let my family's situation serve as a lesson.
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Monday, March 12, 2012
Spring has sprung...
These are just a few of the things going on at my house in the past week...
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Friday, March 9, 2012
Letters from Home: March 15, 1962
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March 15, 1962
Dear Jean:
Your letter came yesterday so I'll write a little this morning. Our weather is much better this week but is still cold and cloudy. A little rain, a little snow, a little ice and a little sunshine occasionally. Just March, I suppose.
We got Bill's wire last Thursday after I had written you that he'd arrive in Charleston on Friday. So Daddy and I with Ann and Stevie drove down. The plane was late (it was a bad day - snow in Beckley, rain in Charleston) so we waited and waited but he did arrive and we got back home about 4 o'clock. He was so tired and sleepy after being "on the road" all week that it was Saturday before he became all that Stevie expected. But Stevie became so impatient with the wait, so excited over events that his stammering came back. He's alright now but at first was afraid to sleep or leave the room lest his Daddy disappear. He's sleeping in your room and thinks he's putting something over on you.
They drove to Ft. Lee yesterday but will be back tomorrow. They are trying to find housing before Bill has to report for duty (April 12th, I believe). I tried to get Daddy to go to see Aunt Blanche as they went but he refused unless I went and I just didn't feel up to it. I'm so worn out from all my activities the last few weeks (or months) that I thought I should rest instead. I guess I'm doing just that. After they left yesterday morning, I went back to bed for awhile and then made last night a 10 hour sleep. I'm not very peppy this morning tho', so suppose I'll have to continue the treatment. It's not all "being tired". I have a little indigestion so maybe I've been eating too much.
I had Bob's family as well as Bill's for Sunday dinner. I cooked the turkey and all the "fixins". Wished the rest of you could have been with us.
I'm going to launder table linens, etc., today.
Bill brought me a wooden tray carved from one piece in the shape of a water lily pad. I'm real proud of it. He also gave me a new slide viewer that holds 25 slides. I'll have to get more slides from the family travels since I don't make them. I also had another gift this week (I guess I rubbed Aladdin's lamp again). It's a trash can I had admired. It's made of polyethylene - yellow with the swing top like street cans only smaller and takes the plce of my box or bag I kept in the kitchen for paper trash. I'm real proud of it and my "corner" looks so much neater. Ann got that a few days ago.
I went to Bridge club Tuesday at Mrs. Keyser's. She had a luncheon - real nice.
Ann and I went up town last week and looked at lots of pretties. Tried on hats and looked at dresses, etc. And Stevie haunted all toy counters. Ann got him another "whirly bird". That evening Wilma brought him another almost like it and his dad brought him another, much larger, one so he's still talking helicopters. He and Karen played together nicely Sunday.
Now your letter. I don't find many leads...
About the muffin tins - I have two about that size so don't buy another. Mine are not quite so deep as the one you sent but will go with it nicely. I wasn't going to say anything but will tell you now that the kind I wanted has space for about 20 muffins a little larger than thimble size. People use them for cup cakes fo parties - teas, coffees, etc., where they need numbers instead of size. I would use them very seldom so I'll just keep a look out and find one sometime.
I'll show your letter to Ann and Bill. I'm sure they will be interested in the records.
Karen wears a size 12 shoe.That's the same as at Christmas. Jo Ann says to tell you that she got her report card yesterday and had 3 A's and 2 B's. Also she had her school picture made yesterday and will send you one when she gets them. We're both wondering if she'll look happy in it.
I must close. Be good and happy.
Love,
Mother
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Sunday, March 4, 2012
Letters from Home: March 8, 1962
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March 8, 1962
Dear Jean:I'm sure you've heard enough weather news this week to know that winter is upon us again. It began snowing Monday and kept it up 'til Tuesday night. We had 8 to 10 inches and has been real cold. It cleared about noon yesterday and much of it has melted but this is a cold, white , sunny morning.
I had everything in readiness for the DAR meeting Tuesday - silver polished, dishes all out, napkins arranged, chairs all carried in and the house in "apple pie" order when the meeting was cancelled about 10:30. It was just too bad for people to come. So, I spent the rest of the day putting things back in place - (cancelled my ice cream order) and my obligation is over for this year. Also my cake is baked for this weekend - frozen, of course.
I have a lovely bouquet of flowers left over, Forsythia and Daffodils (which I forced) and the lovely bunch of grapes adorns the base of it.
I received the package last week and am proud of all of them. My plate is running over now, so I guess we'd better quit. I gave Ann her mushroom and she's quite proud of it, altho' I don't think it's near as pretty as mine. Also thanks for the muffin tin.
Anne and Stevie came up to Wilma's yesterday (put off a load of their belongings here) and will stay there 'til Friday when they'll come here to stay.
We still haven't heard anything from Bill but are momentarily expecting a wire since he was supposed to reach San Francisco yesterday. If he gets here this week, I'll have the "Turkey Dinner" Sunday and have asked Bob's folks for the occasion but whether it will be this Sunday or the following one is still in doubt.
Schools were closed yesterday.
Ann is going to come for me this morning and we're going shopping. You'd laugh if you could see my shopping list. Nothing very glamorous, I assure you.
Did you get your blouse? Now for your letter: Glad your entertaining is over? I'm sure you are. I've reread your letter but find few leads since I've already commented on most of it.
You seem to be thinking in terms of leaving Louisianna. We would be glad to have you nearer home but so far as vice is concerned, you'll find it wherever you go, from city to hamlet or even the country side. I'm afraid it's with us to stay and also the corrupt officials. I guess the only thing we can do is to try to keep our little individual worlds as pure as possible (but I think under minute scrutiny, a lot of our thinking is warped). Oh well, the Lord made us human and I think he understands our shortcomings. If not, heaven will be very sparsely settled...and that's not flippancy.
Stevie brought his guitar over yesterday and played and sang hillbilly songs. I pretended that his music was so fine. I couldn't keep my feet still and he laughed 'til he cried. He had a wonderful time and I was worn out! He expects me to play with him all the time. I guess when Bill comes, that will relieve me.
Dad and I raked the whole lawn last Friday and spread fertilizer all over so we are all set for spring when it does come to stay.
Ann just called to say she's on her way to see her mother and then on here.
Be good and happy.
Love,
Mother
PS. Marjorie called sunday. She was to go with Hutch to Cleveland for a few days this week.
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Saturday, March 3, 2012
It's about that time of year...
Every March I think back to when I was little...we always had a big garden...or at least to me it seemed as though it was HUGE. Every March, usually around the 17th, my mom would start many plants by seed. My dad would bring home peat pots, potting soil and many packages of different kinds of seeds... green beans, corn, tomatoes, onions, leaf lettuce, peppers, rhubarb and tons of flowers. When I was old enough, I loved to help my mom...we would start the tomato and peppers indoors first. I'm sure the first few times I "helped" her it was more mess making than actual help. But, she let me do everything with her. We put all of the little seed pots on a card table covered them with a dark plastic garbage bag to keep the soil moist and warm...and then every day we would sit it in front of the living room "picture" window to soak up the warmth from the sun that streamed in.
Oh how excited I would get when the seedlings began to pop their little heads up out of the soil. I looked forward to watering them every single day. And, once the seedlings got their second set of leaves, we'd mix up Miracle Grow and give them a good dose...man alive, did they ever take off after that!
To keep them from getting "spindly" (tall and skinny), as my mother would say, we would begin taking them outside during the day to "harden" them up a bit. And, after the last frost, my dad would get out his old garden tiller and get the soil ready for planting the garden...we usually planted a lot of the garden on Good Friday...not quite sure why. Maybe it's because my dad had the day off and could be there to help my mom....I know there was an old wive's tale about the fact you were supposed to plant potatoes on Good Friday...But, from everything I've read, that tale is a bust...and shouldn't be followed. We would transplant the seedlings that were, by then, large leafy plants, into the ground...and mom would also plant beans, corn, onions, leaf lettuce, dill and cucumber seeds directly into the soil. My dad was responsible for planting the potatoes and also tending to the apple trees and the grape vines...I was there to help plant and then helping my mother weed the garden using a hoe every few days.
And then, late in the summer just before school started, we would have marathon canning sessions. We would pick the produce in the late afternoon and then wait until around 10 - 11 pm to begin the canning process. You see, we lived in the mountains and, at that time, our little house did not have air conditioning. How in the world we lived without it is beyond me. I guess it's because we spent so much of the hot summer days outdoors. Firing up the canner would make the entire house so incredibly hot...so, we'd wait until the coolest part of the day which was nighttime. That always seemed so exciting to me...to get to stay up almost all night working in the kitchen with my mom was so much fun! Would give anything to be able to have that experience with her now that I am an adult.
So...it's about this time every year I order my seeds for a very tiny kitchen garden...I received the most beautifully done catalog yesterday from Comstock, Ferre & Co...even if you're not a gardener, you should request a copy...the photos and illustrations are lovely. This company specializes in heirloom seeds. I've never planted heirloom veggies so I've decided to give it a try...here's what I've ordered:
St. Valery Carrots
Jimmy Nardello Peppers
Bull Nose Peppers
Rhubarb
New England Pie Pumpkins
Connecticut Field Pumpkins
Winter Luxury Pumpkins
Bonnie Best Tomatoes
Chives
Dill
Cabbage
Ball's Orange Calendula
Persian Carpet Zinnia
Peppermint Stick Zinnia
Mammoth Russian Sunflowers
Can hardly wait for my order to arrive...even though I love the winter months desperately, since we're obviously not going to have a winter this year, I'm ready to get started with spring! Planning my garden takes me back to much happier times when my mom and I could still do things together. Having my own garden and managing it the same she did her own, helps me feel a little closer to her...something I've missed for a long long time.
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Oh how excited I would get when the seedlings began to pop their little heads up out of the soil. I looked forward to watering them every single day. And, once the seedlings got their second set of leaves, we'd mix up Miracle Grow and give them a good dose...man alive, did they ever take off after that!
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| Courtesy of Comstock's Catalog |
And then, late in the summer just before school started, we would have marathon canning sessions. We would pick the produce in the late afternoon and then wait until around 10 - 11 pm to begin the canning process. You see, we lived in the mountains and, at that time, our little house did not have air conditioning. How in the world we lived without it is beyond me. I guess it's because we spent so much of the hot summer days outdoors. Firing up the canner would make the entire house so incredibly hot...so, we'd wait until the coolest part of the day which was nighttime. That always seemed so exciting to me...to get to stay up almost all night working in the kitchen with my mom was so much fun! Would give anything to be able to have that experience with her now that I am an adult.
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| Courtesy of Comstock's Catalog |
St. Valery Carrots
Jimmy Nardello Peppers
Bull Nose Peppers
Rhubarb
New England Pie Pumpkins
Connecticut Field Pumpkins
Winter Luxury Pumpkins
Bonnie Best Tomatoes
Chives
Dill
Cabbage
Ball's Orange Calendula
Persian Carpet Zinnia
Peppermint Stick Zinnia
Mammoth Russian Sunflowers
Can hardly wait for my order to arrive...even though I love the winter months desperately, since we're obviously not going to have a winter this year, I'm ready to get started with spring! Planning my garden takes me back to much happier times when my mom and I could still do things together. Having my own garden and managing it the same she did her own, helps me feel a little closer to her...something I've missed for a long long time.
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